The Reality of 'Moving Dreams': Dalat Migrants' 'Boredom' and 'Emptiness'

In recent years, there has been a growing trend of people in Vietnam dreaming of moving from urban centers to provincial cities like Dalat. However, reports from social media and case studies reveal that many experience 'boredom' and 'emptiness' after a few years of relocation. A woman, three years into her move, shared, "My house is settled, the flowers have bloomed, and the trees have grown, but I feel something is missing, I've become bored." She attributes this not to climate or difficult living conditions, but to the fading of the initial excitement. Similarly, a man who invested in a farmstay business near Dalat was forced to abandon it after three years. Low occupancy rates, high operating costs, and unforeseen problems led to his romantic expectation that a beautiful garden and comfortable rooms would attract guests facing the harsh realities. Experts point out that such situations are not unique to Dalat but are common psychological responses for many when deciding to relocate from cities. The primary factors include: First, confusing 'liking a place' with 'long-term livability.' The comfort experienced during short trips or vacations often fades when faced with practical challenges like work, income, healthcare, education, and social relationships upon actual settlement. Dalat becomes a place to live, not just a tourist destination. Second, equating 'novelty' with 'happiness.' The initial excitement of a new environment is temporary and eventually becomes routine. When familiar life feels like a repetitive cycle, people may mistakenly believe they no longer love the place, when in fact, their 'honeymoon period' has simply ended. Third, the 'lack of new goals' after moving. After achieving the dream of owning a house in Dalat, if one cannot find the next objective, daily routines can lead to a sense of emptiness. This can happen anywhere, not just in Dalat. Experts acknowledge that moving to Dalat can be an attractive option if financial conditions and suitable work are met. However, they caution against excessive expectations that simply changing locations will automatically lead to a happier and more peaceful life. The crucial element is not just environmental change, but the individual's own construction of emotions, goals, and their approach to life. The ability to find a 'reason to wake up each morning' in the new location is the key to finding a truly 'livable place.'